Creating A Ripple Effect: I Think You Are Awesome!

Creating A Ripple Effect: I Think You Are Awesome!

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I Think You Are Awesome!

I haven’t written or shared too much about my Dad here on starbritewarrior.com.

I’ve tongue-in-cheek thanked him in my birthday exploits article back in June. I brashly told him that I just wasn’t getting enough juicy ideas from him to share in the public arena. Ouch!

Prior to that, Dad’s only other mention was waaaaaaay back in November 2014, in an article that will likely end up in the blogger archives (I was a newbie blogger still finding my ‘blogging zone’).

The rest of the family has made far more regular appearances.

My Mum is a Starbrite Warrior Frequent Flyer, seemingly able to provide me with endless fodder to weave into my musings.

Master Horus raises his fluffy head and stink eye stare all the time. His popularity has grown to the point where I decided to indulge his request for his own Instagram account. If you want attitude and antics of the fur-baby variety, follow the little Tickeroo @my_life_as_horus_bear.

Hubby is constantly referenced across these pages, plus he has an entire letter dedicated to him that went viral on elephant journal

Even the pesky little brother has an article that was mostly about / dedicated to him.

Now it’s Dad’s turn to shine. He’s come up with the goods!

You need a little bit of back story to the main event.

I recently read an amazing self-development book called The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life (aff) by Jeff Olson.

Jeff offers simple, sensible and constructive advice, in an affable, easy-to-read writing style, to demonstrate the power of small, simple disciplines, which, when done consistently over time, can add up to some of the biggest accomplishments in our lives.

The catch? These little things are easy to do but also very easy not to do. Small decisions that may seem insignificant in the moment can eventually become life-changers.

One of The Slight Edge actions I committed to take is to read 10 pages of a life transformational book every day.

Easy to do, easy not to do.

This daily discipline is how I came across the teachings of Shawn Achor in The Happiness Advantage (aff). 

I’ve always been a firm believer in the power of positivity and achieving a more empowered existence.

Shawn writes that happiness doesn’t just come from the big wins or big achievements; it’s the little things, built up over time, that are arguably as important, if not more so, to boosting our happiness.

Remembering the little ditty, “Insight without action is worthless,” I made the decision to take two minutes at the start of each day to send someone I know an email or text to thank or praise them.

This activity is what Shawn refers to as a Conscious Act of Kindness.

Bob Burg and John David Mann, who co-authored The Go-Giver (aff), a parable about business and life, refer to it as a ‘Go-Giver’ activity. 

Regardless of terminology, what these best-selling authors are keen for us to understand, is that we can start to rewire our brains to become happy (or happier) by practicing simple, consistent, authentic habits on a daily basis.

Our brains become addicted to feeling good by making others feel good.

Pretty cool, hey?  

My Dad was the first person my Conscious Act of Kindness touched.

Date: Monday 8th August 2016.

Subject Line: I Think You Are Awesome!

Content: “Hi Dad, Popping into your email box to say I think you are awesome! Have a great day. Loves you. Xx”

Dad is constantly glued to his phone. “Thanks gorgeous” immediately pinged back at me.

I smiled, happy that I had made a positive impact not only on his day, but also my own.

Many hours later, I was blown away to receive this beautiful text message, which Dad is supportive of me sharing here:

“I’ve been thinking about the lovely note you sent this morning. It was wonderful as it was totally unexpected.

I should have said you are awesome because you truly are. I live in awe of how strong and resilient you have been and are. Most often I forget about what you have to deal with daily because of how you deal with it and don’t allow it to rule your life. You have been inspirational in how you’ve shaped your life and pursued your passion and dreams. All the elements of being awesome. Luvs u.”

Words blurring on the screen. Every single time I read his message.

Wow Dad, when you bring the goods you really bring the goods!

Normally I can hold my emotions together until someone says something truly heartfelt, with empathy, with feeling, which causes me to lose my shit and start with the waterworks.

I cried because his words touched me to my core.

I cried because I spend so much of my time in a type of survival mode, compartmentalising, trying my hardest not to dwell on the challenges in my everyday life.

Dad’s words cracked me wide open, revealing true vulnerability, and I suddenly felt sorry for myself.

I know this wasn’t his intention but it’s weird psychology at work.

When someone offers true compassion, care and acknowledgement that you are doing the best you can, it has the power to affect you deeply. To invoke a cathartic release; an emotional cleanse.

I cried because his conscious act of kindness made me so incredibly happy.

I may have set out to brighten Dad’s day with the ‘I Think You Are Awesome!’ email, but the exercise turned into a much more powerful experience.

It started a ripple effect.

Small, positive changes that rippled outward, “…fuelling camaraderie, promoting kindness and creating a better world in the process.” – Big Brothers, Big Sisters 

‘I Think You Are Awesome!’ is here for the long haul.

Will you join me to help spread the ripple effect even further? #IThinkYouAreAwesome

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48 Responses to Creating A Ripple Effect: I Think You Are Awesome!

    • I know right Erica? Soooo good! It will definitely be a book I keep coming back to time and time again. And no doubt learning new things each time I read it!

  1. This is SO sweet, I love this. I love how such a simple action turned into such a beautiful moment. I will definitely be doing this more often 🙂 Thanks for sharing your story!

    • Thank you for taking the time to read our story Hannah. Simple things so often end up being the most impactful, the most profound, and yet, like Jeff says in The Slight Edge, they can also be “easy to do, easy not to do.” Writing one “I think you are awesome!” email to one person each day is not only bringing a smile to their face, lighting up their world, but in turn, it is having a huge (positive) impact on mine. Can’t go wrong with that!

    • Thank you Amber. 🙂 I loved sharing it with this community. There is huge power in the unexpected compliment – as witnessed by the reaction my Dad and I both experienced when we were on the receiving end of a beautiful, unexpected compliment.

  2. I love this! I have been on both sides of this as well Randomly being told how much you inspire someone or how happy know you makes them is a wonderful feeling. It’s also wonderful knowing that you can bring a smile to someone’s face just by telling them what you feel about them. I’ve been trying to be more conscious about reaching out to others. Thanks for the inspiration

    • Exactly Dia! You really can’t go wrong with something like this because both parties are going to feel good. I’m yet to come across anyone who I’ve reached out to who hasn’t been happy to receive such an email. The power of the little things.

    • Thank you Rosemary! I was in awe of the flow-on effect that one seemingly small email created. Just goes to show the power of the ripple effect and touching people with kindness.

  3. I also believe in the power of positivity! I play softball weekly, and sometimes our team gets really negative (especially when the other team isn’t so nice). I always try and be the bright light on the team to get them back into the groove through positivity! Thanks for sharing.

    • That is so lovely what you do for your team Victoria. I’m sure they appreciate you bringing your light to the game to help lift their spirits back up. Negativity, particularly in a group situation, can so quickly permeate.

    • Exactly Shi Hui! I always think of the saying by Buddha, “What you think you become. What you feel you attract. What you imagine you create.”

  4. SUBJECT: I think you are truly Awesome!

    CONTENT : Hi Starbrite, just popping into your Blog comments box to say I think you are truly Awesome! Have a fabulous day! As I always say about you – You Absolutely Awesomely Rock! ♡ ChinaGirl

    • TO: ChinaGirl

      RE: I think you are truly Awesome

      One of my biggest cheerleaders in action yet again. 🙂 I don’t want to seem off-the-cuff with a ‘right back at ya!’ comment but at the same time, it’s quite appropriate. As I truly do think you are awesome too! Xx

    • Feel the feelings Angie, I love this. Dad may have written the words to me, but they have the power to touch many other people in a way that resonates for them, for you, in that moment. Powerful stuff. And pssst, I still cry every time I read this! Xx

  5. I love this idea. I try to go out of my way to offer support, love, and to the people in my life because I know how much of a difference a single “you’re awesome!” can make!

    • Exactly Courtney. Small actions can be so powerful, bring such happiness, to the lives of other people. And let’s not forget to ourselves, too!

    • I hope you decide to start doing it Roxy. It takes but a few minutes a day and has such a positive impact on everyone involved. Remember, our brains become addicted to feeling good by making others feel good! 🙂

  6. Compliments and nice deeds go a long way…it’s always good to tell someone that they are awesome! I love the relationship you have with your family!

    • Compliments and kind deeds are one of the best things we can do for people, including ourselves! The happy brain waves that start flowing from this kind of activity can’t be underestimated in my opinion. In the 3 weeks I’ve been sending a daily email to someone in my circle…WOW! Ripple effect for sure Kim S! Xx

    • Go Heather! It really is a great uplifting activity to weave into your day – for you and whomever you send the email to.

    • Totally Jenny! Even more so when they are completely unexpected. My Dad isn’t usually the expressive type, particularly when it comes to things like emotions, so this is even more special.

    • Yeah, he stepped up to the plate Cori so it was only fair that he got centre stage for a bit! *Giggles* As I said in the article, when he brings the goods he REALLY brings the goods! Still blown away by the message…

    • My pleasure Heather. We have my Dad to thank for this because I would have respected his wishes if he wanted the message to remain private. He has such a generous spirit.

    • I totally agree with you Carol. I was absolutely blown away by his response. I was saying to someone in an earlier comment that my Dad isn’t usually the expressive or emotional type, which makes this message even more powerful. I will treasure it forever.

    • Absolutely Linda! Such an easy activity to integrate into daily life and when it has such a powerful effect, why wouldn’t we make it a priority? 🙂

    • My pleasure Brianna! Whilst the message was written to me it speaks to a much wider audience. So incredibly powerful! Xx

    • It certainly doesn’t Candy. As Jeff Olson says, “Easy to do, easy not to do.” I love the impact a simple, authentic email is having, not just on the people I send it to, but also myself. I’m keeping it going for sure!

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