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I Think You Are Awesome!
I haven’t written or shared too much about my Dad here on starbritewarrior.com.
I’ve tongue-in-cheek thanked him in my birthday exploits article back in June. I brashly told him that I just wasn’t getting enough juicy ideas from him to share in the public arena. Ouch!
Prior to that, Dad’s only other mention was waaaaaaay back in November 2014, in an article that will likely end up in the blogger archives (I was a newbie blogger still finding my ‘blogging zone’).
The rest of the family has made far more regular appearances.
My Mum is a Starbrite Warrior Frequent Flyer, seemingly able to provide me with endless fodder to weave into my musings.
Master Horus raises his fluffy head and stink eye stare all the time. His popularity has grown to the point where I decided to indulge his request for his own Instagram account. If you want attitude and antics of the fur-baby variety, follow the little Tickeroo @my_life_as_horus_bear.
Hubby is constantly referenced across these pages, plus he has an entire letter dedicated to him that went viral on elephant journal.
Even the pesky little brother has an article that was mostly about / dedicated to him.
Now it’s Dad’s turn to shine. He’s come up with the goods!
You need a little bit of back story to the main event.
I recently read an amazing self-development book called The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life (aff) by Jeff Olson.
Jeff offers simple, sensible and constructive advice, in an affable, easy-to-read writing style, to demonstrate the power of small, simple disciplines, which, when done consistently over time, can add up to some of the biggest accomplishments in our lives.
The catch? These little things are easy to do but also very easy not to do. Small decisions that may seem insignificant in the moment can eventually become life-changers.
One of The Slight Edge actions I committed to take is to read 10 pages of a life transformational book every day.
Easy to do, easy not to do.
This daily discipline is how I came across the teachings of Shawn Achor in The Happiness Advantage (aff).
I’ve always been a firm believer in the power of positivity and achieving a more empowered existence.
Shawn writes that happiness doesn’t just come from the big wins or big achievements; it’s the little things, built up over time, that are arguably as important, if not more so, to boosting our happiness.
Remembering the little ditty, “Insight without action is worthless,” I made the decision to take two minutes at the start of each day to send someone I know an email or text to thank or praise them.
This activity is what Shawn refers to as a Conscious Act of Kindness.
Bob Burg and John David Mann, who co-authored The Go-Giver (aff), a parable about business and life, refer to it as a ‘Go-Giver’ activity.
Regardless of terminology, what these best-selling authors are keen for us to understand, is that we can start to rewire our brains to become happy (or happier) by practicing simple, consistent, authentic habits on a daily basis.
Our brains become addicted to feeling good by making others feel good.
Pretty cool, hey?
My Dad was the first person my Conscious Act of Kindness touched.
Date: Monday 8th August 2016.
Subject Line: I Think You Are Awesome!
Content: “Hi Dad, Popping into your email box to say I think you are awesome! Have a great day. Loves you. Xx”
Dad is constantly glued to his phone. “Thanks gorgeous” immediately pinged back at me.
I smiled, happy that I had made a positive impact not only on his day, but also my own.
Many hours later, I was blown away to receive this beautiful text message, which Dad is supportive of me sharing here:
“I’ve been thinking about the lovely note you sent this morning. It was wonderful as it was totally unexpected.
I should have said you are awesome because you truly are. I live in awe of how strong and resilient you have been and are. Most often I forget about what you have to deal with daily because of how you deal with it and don’t allow it to rule your life. You have been inspirational in how you’ve shaped your life and pursued your passion and dreams. All the elements of being awesome. Luvs u.”
Words blurring on the screen. Every single time I read his message.
Wow Dad, when you bring the goods you really bring the goods!
Normally I can hold my emotions together until someone says something truly heartfelt, with empathy, with feeling, which causes me to lose my shit and start with the waterworks.
I cried because his words touched me to my core.
I cried because I spend so much of my time in a type of survival mode, compartmentalising, trying my hardest not to dwell on the challenges in my everyday life.
Dad’s words cracked me wide open, revealing true vulnerability, and I suddenly felt sorry for myself.
I know this wasn’t his intention but it’s weird psychology at work.
When someone offers true compassion, care and acknowledgement that you are doing the best you can, it has the power to affect you deeply. To invoke a cathartic release; an emotional cleanse.
I cried because his conscious act of kindness made me so incredibly happy.
I may have set out to brighten Dad’s day with the ‘I Think You Are Awesome!’ email, but the exercise turned into a much more powerful experience.
It started a ripple effect.
Small, positive changes that rippled outward, “…fuelling camaraderie, promoting kindness and creating a better world in the process.” – Big Brothers, Big Sisters
‘I Think You Are Awesome!’ is here for the long haul.
Will you join me to help spread the ripple effect even further? #IThinkYouAreAwesome
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