I Saw The Sign…But I Missed The Sign…Whoops!

I’m sure you know the song by Ace of Base, “I Saw The Sign.”

It’s all about seeing the signs and making a life change (for the better).

I’ve kind of changed it up a little bit for the purposes of this post.

What if I said, “I saw the sign,” and the next line read something like:

“But I didn’t twig (aka make the connection) that it was an actual sign...whoops!”


“But I missed the sign…whoops!”

In my newsletter to my email community last week – you can sign up right here if you aren’t already a member!  – I talked about how I’m coming out of a chronic fatigue flare. Actually, the specific words I used were, “I’ve been in a chronic fatigue funk fest.”

My Mum, naturally, is one of my most loyal readers.

She is also one of my favourite muses, providing me with endless fodder and entertaining stories to regale you with.

As soon as the “I’ve been in a chronic fatigue funk fest,” email pinged in her inbox she was on the phone to me.

The conversation went a little something like this:

Mum: Morning Peezy. You’ve been keeping secrets from Mumma.

Me: {Playing dumb}. Say what?

Mum: You’ve been having a chronic fatigue flare. You didn’t tell me that.

{C’mon brain, time to fire up and do me proud!}

Me: Yes I did. I told you I was tired! You missed the sign!

{Oh yeah, and I’m back in the game!}

A moment of silence.

I waited with baited breath, knowing a second brilliant comeback was probably asking a bit too much of my brain in its fragile state.

Mum just burst out laughing and couldn’t stop.

Which meant my Dad, lurking in the background as he loves a good gossip session, wanted to know what was so funny.

Mum relayed the conversation, ending with, “And apparently I missed the sign…she told me she was tired!”

Cue more laughter from Dad.

Now in my Mum’s defence, the sign that she missed was so small she would have needed a powerful microscope to read it.

I had steered clear of FaceTime conversations because she would have called me out as a liar within 0.25 seconds of seeing my face light up her screen.

Her Mumma antennae would have zeroed in on my pale complexion and the dark circles that look like minor “black eyes” that even the best makeup application can’t fully disguise.

I had been deliberately vague about my symptoms in our telephone conversations, downplaying my extreme exhaustion with the classic I’m fine,” comment and the “I’m tired,” remark (sign!) because I didn’t want to worry her. I tell her after the worst is over.

She’s usually very perceptive and not much gets past her. She can pick up just the slightest change in my voice, so either my acting skills have improved or she was off her game when the topic came up!

I teased her further that I rarely complain, so for me to say “I’m tired,” is one of the hints in my playbook that things are not all that they seem. 

Pretty quick with the witty retorts herself, she responded that she had the playbook open and “I’m tired = I’m in a chronic fatigue funk fest,” wasn’t featured and perhaps I best update it.

Touché, Mumma Bear, touché!

Now it’s your turn! Have you ever missed the sign? Comment below!

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42 Replies to “I Saw The Sign…But I Missed The Sign…Whoops!”

  1. I always downplay things too because I don’t want to come off as a “drama queen” or burden anyone. I recently realized that both my boyfriend and one of my good friends didn’t realize I had been diagnosed with an autoimmune disease because when I told them I had I downplayed it! Oops!

    1. I see what you mean about a bit of an ‘Oops!’ there, Candice. A timely reminder that there is downplaying and then there is downplaying! I hope it has been a good thing for you that two people so important in your life are now more aware of the state of play and can be there to support you in a greater capacity. Sending hugs

  2. I’ve missed a few signs, but I try not to think about it! Haha. I’ve also been on the “I told you I was tired” side! Happy to see you out of your fatigue funk fest!

    1. Oh it totally does Cynthia…communication works even better when one isn’t being intentionally obtuse/evasive about things too, lol! What’s even funnier is that when I said “I’m tired,” to my Mum originally, she responded with “Me tooooooo!” So I now joke that she totally missed the point. Poor Mumma Bear!

    1. It totally is Chloe – especially when you a) don’t know to look for one and b) the other person isn’t being particularly forthcoming/truthful about the status quo. Whoops!

    1. Or the other person isn’t really making it that easy for someone else to even recognise that there is a sign there to begin with…it works both ways Victoria so don’t feel too bad. 🙂

    1. I hear ya Liz! And that’s exactly what I said to my poor Mum, lol! She needs to update that playbook! 😉

  3. I love that you and your mom are close like this. I’ve never heard this song, but often times wonder about missing signs in life. I always ask for signs that I’m making the right decision or signs to help me avoid the wrong ones.

    1. We are super close Roxy and I realise how lucky I/we are to have that kind of a relationship.

      It’s true that signs are all around us but whether we pick up on all of them, I’m not sure that’s possible. Hopefully we see the most important ones.

  4. There are missed signs that you know you missed and missed signs that you don’t know you’ve missed. I think most of my signs fall into these categories, lol.

    Love how upbeat your mom and dad sound, though. My family deals with everything thanks to humor/teasing – that’s the only way to get through things in my opinion!

    Glad you’re coming out of a funk, though, that must be so difficult!

    1. Me too Jessica!

      Humour/teasing is the best, I’d much rather laugh my way through the challenges wherever possible.

      And yup, chronic fatigue funk fests really stink! Thankfully I am coming out the other side of it now, thank you for your concern. 🙂

  5. Now I have that song in my head haha! Great point though, we so often miss the subtle sign pointing so something bigger. On the flip side, sometimes we need to give bigger signs if we want our message to be picked up! I’m so glad you are feeling better!

    1. I had it in my head for days Angie, lol!

      Thank you for your kind words of support, I’m definitely coming out the other side of the chronic fatigue funk fest – thank goodness!

      And my Mum would totally agree with you – be less subtle was the message received. Hmmm, so maybe next time I should say I’m really, really tired? I wonder if she will get that…!

  6. How true that is–missing the forest for the trees, so to speak. I hadn’t thought of that song in so long! or what it meant, But it was the perfect choice to make your point. Hope you feel great soon.

    1. Neither had I Carol until it popped into my head as I was writing the post – so fitting though! Only problem is now I can’t get the song out of my head…gah!

  7. I’ve got to admit, I miss the sign all too often! I really need someone to spell it out for me, because I am no good at decoding what they really meant to say.

    1. But therein lies the problem Jenine – you aren’t a mind reader and shouldn’t really have to try and decode the message. We (I’m using the collective although in this instance, it’s really just me!) needs to get better at the communications…because clearly my Mumma Bear needs an extra few hints, lol!

  8. That’s hilarious! I wish me and my mom had the same humorous banter! I feel fatigue mostly when I’m stressed out and once I reach that point, I know it’s time to take a step back from whatever I’m doing and give myself a break. Great post!

    1. Thanks Channing! I know I am very lucky to have the relationship that I do with my Mum. Humour is such a big thing in our lives and it really has helped us to get through many a tough time.

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